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Thank ya'll so much for being here! Grateful for you all and Kylie, you are so sweet!

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Thank you, Tracey. What a lovely introduction!!

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Problem-solving skills: seeing frustrations as problems to be solved vs unsurmountable roadblocks

Dr. Kim Allenkimberly_allen@ncsu.eduTaylor McDonald:Taylor McDonaldtmcdonald@preventchildabusenc.orgKylie Foley IEI:kdfoley@ncsu.eduTracey O'NealTracey O'Neal toneal@preventchildabusenc.org

connecting and doing things with others

I agree, John. Connection with others is high on my list as well.

I’m almost always in my downstairs brain during the pandemic. Finding new coping skills “down here” has been helpful instead of working hard to “move up” with limited emotional energy

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I too am in my downstairs brain more often than before and I have noticed our boys are too. So grateful for this video as a reminder!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gm9CIJ74Oxw

Here is the link to the video. You can just click and watch on your own screen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gm9CIJ74Oxw

I love when kids can name they need a break! Some of our neighborhood kiddos do that and I wish I had that language when I was younger

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I've seen that model offered in Conscious Discipline too. Love it!

I love it too!!

Don’t know that I’d use the technical terms, but it’s a great visual. Helps parents know they can’t reason with a child (or adult) who’s upset

I agree, Margaret. Just know that how we handle our anger is connected to our brain is so helpful.

Elmo has a very cute video on hugging yourself :)

Setting a good example for children (be the thermostat, not the thermometer). Help them develop empathy by asking how they think others feel, or how they’d feel if (something) happened to them.

Recognize the emotion and give a safe space to allow expression.

toss salad*

Be their positive inner voice and giving them your calm

yes, Nadia. salad. light on the dressing (smile)

“tossed salad.” This means that components of our racial, religious, and cultural heritage remain intact. We identify by with our groups outside of being just plain American.

love that @John Parker!

THE KISSING HAND (and pocket full of kisses) by Audrey Penn helped me so much as an anxious kid!

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Thank you Nadia for sharing!

Rainbow Fish by Marcus Pfister

Love that Sophie book!

ABC, Mindful Me- Christiane Engel

Nature RX :)

Yes!

our boys loved DAVIF

Tough Guys (Have Feelings, Too)

oops DAVID

I get tons of books from thriftbooks.com! Usually cheap, second hand, good quality, and free shipping over $10!!

LOVE thriftbooks!!!

thanks for the reference

Dolly Partons Reading Library via SmartStart

Ordered books from there for virtual story time for work!

Dolly Parton Imagination Library

https://imaginationlibrary.com/

Virtual Library Childrens Book story time is a great resource that Wake County and many other counties offer!

My Magic Breath

“B” is for Breathe (coping skills)

The boy, the mole, the fox, and the horse is a GREAT book for kids and adults on empathy for self and others!

“It’s okay to feel that way. I understand.”

When the child is feeling better, they are more than likely in their upstairs brain so when coming back when the child is calm, they will be able to undesrstand and learn

breathing and/or walking with them ....

you are valued and I love you

You are valuable. You are worthy.

You are beautiful, You are kind, you are smart.

then ask them more about their feelings… (if they’re having a hard time being clear about their needs, wants, frustrations…

Love that, Tondrea <3

you are loved and worthy of being loved!

If you could have a "do over" what would you do different? This would tell me that mistakes are ok and help me think through what to do next time.

Yes- love that Nadia and Lynda as well!

Very similar to the "words of affirmation" activity from the PF training. Something that PCANC can help provide supports/resources

You are amazing and awesome! Forgive me, I shouldn't talked to you that way

SAME Margaret!

that’s so needed for healing

Thank you so much for sharing, Kylie <3

Many times it’s been helpful to me and the kids to have conversations after some time and distance to unpack feelings and anything needed for moving forward or adapting, changing, etc.

^ that is so helpful, Jon- giving your kids space to do that, as well as yourself, is so important.

I’m getting reports of frustration, sadness (missing friends), depression, acting out

yes. everyone’s different with their COVID responses / feelings

We’re heard from many pastors who’s kids are being affected in different ways eating wise- stress eating/ abstaining etc.

withdrawn and immersed in technology

In our childcare, we have noticed they are a bit wilder and more needy.

My youngest child is very expressive, she loves giving hugs and show affection to others. Now that she is not in school, I have noticed that she needs extra hugs during the day from us.

Parents are worn out.

^^ absolutely, Tondrea

Self care is so important for ourselves and for our kids during this time- you can't pour from an empty cup!

Be KIND and available

Thank you for saying that Tondrea! It is so true!

I appreciate the insights you all are sharing. 20 years after I had small children, and during this quarantine, I have had no contact with children for months. I used to be the nursery director for church, and this kind of conversation is so important to doing that work.

Thank you for sharing, Mikael and for the great work that you have done to support children

Mikael, Ellen has been AWESOME at hosting virtual story-telling for our staff kids about some of these books

Personally, I’m a parenting educator so I help children through being a support to caregivers.

Playing games

If you do not have kids yet, I have found that it's been really helpful for children and for myself (self-care) by virtually reading to kiddos before bed or doing virtual yoga with kids, etc. To connect with your family, friends, and kids you love- and helping to give parents support and a short break.

omg! Hiiii Ellen’s friend!

Ireland has been listening in and telling me what would be helpful! We were just talking about love languages

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So adorable! Ireland- that is a beautiful name <3

So happy you have joined us Ireland!

representative!

yes!

Good thought, Ellen. I’ve been sharing children’s books with friends who have grandchildren. I can check in with my church about interest in virtual reading times.

yes

Certainly true

The behavior is communication.

watching expressions and patterns help me notice their feelings.

Adults have to take deep breath before we respond.

Be the thermostat, not the thermometer. Act, don’t react

empa

empathy*

if our dogs are nearby, I’ll sometimes ask them to cuddle or pet one of them - diffuses emotions

our state becomes others state

Empathy vs Sympathy video by Dr. Brene Brown is really helpful (I can't send it via chat since I'm in presentation mode but we will send it as a resource) <3

love that John!

as adults we need to understand our triggers

Brene Brown Empathy vs. Sympathy Videohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZBTYViDPlQ

so good!

The Calm app is really helpful with guided meditations and breathing exercises. Also- the loving kindness meditation is so helpful (Nadia is really good about leading this and talking about it too!) <3

Download the iChill app (free)

This is awesome Kim! Community Resilience Model ichill app

The icare feelings wheel helps with naming emotions and connecting them to other ones

Great job! Thank you for your presentation!

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Yes! Breathing is so helpful!

Fragrantheart.com guided meditation

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Fun thing to do with kiddos and youth, next week PCANC hosting 5Factor5K

attend our protective factors 5k! https://www.preventchildabusenc.org/socially-distant-but-together-in-prioritizing-prevention-5-factors-5k-goes-virtual/

great activities for the kiddos

next week

Thank you! :0)

Wonderful Thank You!

Thank you!

full week of activities for families

Ah, I love you so much, Taylor!!!!

consciousdiscipline.com

So awesome information! Thank you!

Thank you so much

Love you, Tondrea!

Please join us for our first ever (maybe not last), 5 Factors (Virtual) 5k. We are excited to offer this opportunity, for both participants and volunteers, to focus time and energy on strengthening the families and children of NC – especially now.