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PCANC/IEI/NCCC Social Emotional Competence of Children - Shared screen with speaker view
Kylie Foley (IEI)
22:47
We’re SO excited y’all are here! Dr. Kim and Taylor are a TREAT
Rosa Bolden
23:34
Thanks, it's good to be here!
Taylor McDonald
24:16
Thank ya'll so much for being here! Grateful for you all and Kylie, you are so sweet!
Kylie Foley (IEI)
24:35
If you registered last night or this morning, you’ll be receiving the newsletter this evening as well as anyone else! As we chat today, share any resources in the chat and we’ll include them in the newsletter
Kimberly Allen
24:50
So excited to be here!!!
Kimberly Allen
26:22
Thank you, Tracey. What a lovely introduction!!
Tracey O'Neal
27:28
Hello Everyone! We are so glad you are able to join us! Please feel free to use the chat box during the presentation and then we will open it up for conversations. Looking forward to connecting!
Margaret Stridick
31:01
Problem-solving skills: seeing frustrations as problems to be solved vs unsurmountable roadblocks
Tracey O'Neal
31:11
Dr. Kim Allenkimberly_allen@ncsu.eduTaylor McDonald:Taylor McDonaldtmcdonald@preventchildabusenc.orgKylie Foley IEI:kdfoley@ncsu.eduTracey O'NealTracey O'Neal toneal@preventchildabusenc.org
John Parker
31:28
connecting and doing things with others
Kimberly Allen
31:49
I agree, John. Connection with others is high on my list as well.
Kylie Foley (IEI)
32:50
I’m almost always in my downstairs brain during the pandemic. Finding new coping skills “down here” has been helpful instead of working hard to “move up” with limited emotional energy
Tracey O'Neal
32:56
Please use this link to register for tomorrow's Protective Factor of the Day: Knowledge of Parenting and Child Development with Dr. Dawn Baldwin Gibsonhttps://bit.ly/parentingchilddevelopment
Tracey O'Neal
34:57
I too am in my downstairs brain more often than before and I have noticed our boys are too. So grateful for this video as a reminder!
Kimberly Allen
35:02
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gm9CIJ74Oxw
Kimberly Allen
35:23
Here is the link to the video. You can just click and watch on your own screen
Kimberly Allen
35:23
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gm9CIJ74Oxw
Kylie Foley (IEI)
38:46
I love when kids can name they need a break! Some of our neighborhood kiddos do that and I wish I had that language when I was younger
Taylor McDonald
38:48
When you are done viewing the video, please type "done" in the chatbox. Thank you! :)
Lynda Turlington
38:56
done
Jin Lee
38:57
done
Rosa Bolden
38:58
done
Ellen Beasley
38:59
done
Grace Thompson
39:01
done
Jennifer Shaw
39:02
I've seen that model offered in Conscious Discipline too. Love it!
Kimberly Allen
39:09
I love it too!!
Margaret Stridick
39:26
Don’t know that I’d use the technical terms, but it’s a great visual. Helps parents know they can’t reason with a child (or adult) who’s upset
Kimberly Allen
40:09
I agree, Margaret. Just know that how we handle our anger is connected to our brain is so helpful.
Kylie Foley (IEI)
42:19
Elmo has a very cute video on hugging yourself :)
Margaret Stridick
42:51
Setting a good example for children (be the thermostat, not the thermometer). Help them develop empathy by asking how they think others feel, or how they’d feel if (something) happened to them.
Tracey O'Neal
42:58
Recognize the emotion and give a safe space to allow expression.
Nadia Moreta
43:16
toss salad*
Lynda Turlington
43:48
Be their positive inner voice and giving them your calm
John Parker
44:09
yes, Nadia. salad. light on the dressing (smile)
Nadia Moreta
44:24
“tossed salad.” This means that components of our racial, religious, and cultural heritage remain intact. We identify by with our groups outside of being just plain American.
Nadia Moreta
44:50
love that @John Parker!
Kylie Foley (IEI)
45:22
THE KISSING HAND (and pocket full of kisses) by Audrey Penn helped me so much as an anxious kid!
Nadia Moreta
45:41
❤️❤️❤️
Tracey O'Neal
45:47
Thank you Nadia for sharing!
John Parker
46:40
Rainbow Fish by Marcus Pfister
Jennifer Shaw
47:03
Love that Sophie book!
Nadia Moreta
47:18
ABC, Mindful Me- Christiane Engel
Taylor McDonald
47:42
Nature RX :)
Jennifer Shaw
48:03
Yes!
Tracey O'Neal
48:15
our boys loved DAVIF
Margaret Stridick
48:17
Tough Guys (Have Feelings, Too)
Tracey O'Neal
48:23
oops DAVID
Kylie Foley (IEI)
49:28
I get tons of books from thriftbooks.com! Usually cheap, second hand, good quality, and free shipping over $10!!
Ellen Beasley
49:38
LOVE thriftbooks!!!
Rosa Bolden
49:49
thanks for the reference
Taylor McDonald
49:50
Dolly Partons Reading Library via SmartStart
Ellen Beasley
49:54
Ordered books from there for virtual story time for work!
Tracey O'Neal
50:15
Dolly Parton Imagination Library
Tracey O'Neal
50:23
https://imaginationlibrary.com/
Taylor McDonald
50:32
Virtual Library Childrens Book story time is a great resource that Wake County and many other counties offer!
John Parker
50:36
My Magic Breath
Margaret Stridick
50:44
“B” is for Breathe (coping skills)
Ellen Beasley
51:25
The boy, the mole, the fox, and the horse is a GREAT book for kids and adults on empathy for self and others!
Margaret Stridick
51:33
“It’s okay to feel that way. I understand.”
Taylor McDonald
55:17
When the child is feeling better, they are more than likely in their upstairs brain so when coming back when the child is calm, they will be able to undesrstand and learn
John Parker
55:57
breathing and/or walking with them ....
Nadia Moreta
56:11
you are valued and I love you
Tondrea Leach
56:33
You are valuable. You are worthy.
Tondrea Leach
56:46
You are beautiful, You are kind, you are smart.
John Parker
56:52
then ask them more about their feelings… (if they’re having a hard time being clear about their needs, wants, frustrations…
Taylor McDonald
56:56
Love that, Tondrea <3
Tracey O'Neal
57:01
you are loved and worthy of being loved!
Lynda Turlington
57:18
If you could have a "do over" what would you do different? This would tell me that mistakes are ok and help me think through what to do next time.
Taylor McDonald
57:25
Yes- love that Nadia and Lynda as well!
Taylor McDonald
58:17
Very similar to the "words of affirmation" activity from the PF training. Something that PCANC can help provide supports/resources
Carmen Martell
58:38
You are amazing and awesome! Forgive me, I shouldn't talked to you that way
Kylie Foley (IEI)
58:49
SAME Margaret!
Nadia Moreta
01:00:06
that’s so needed for healing
Taylor McDonald
01:00:13
Thank you so much for sharing, Kylie <3
John Parker
01:01:43
Many times it’s been helpful to me and the kids to have conversations after some time and distance to unpack feelings and anything needed for moving forward or adapting, changing, etc.
Taylor McDonald
01:02:19
^ that is so helpful, Jon- giving your kids space to do that, as well as yourself, is so important.
Margaret Stridick
01:02:30
I’m getting reports of frustration, sadness (missing friends), depression, acting out
John Parker
01:02:43
yes. everyone’s different with their COVID responses / feelings
Kylie Foley (IEI)
01:02:49
We’re heard from many pastors who’s kids are being affected in different ways eating wise- stress eating/ abstaining etc.
Tracey O'Neal
01:02:50
withdrawn and immersed in technology
Tondrea Leach
01:03:33
In our childcare, we have noticed they are a bit wilder and more needy.
Carmen Martell
01:04:11
My youngest child is very expressive, she loves giving hugs and show affection to others. Now that she is not in school, I have noticed that she needs extra hugs during the day from us.
Tondrea Leach
01:04:11
Parents are worn out.
Kylie Foley (IEI)
01:07:06
^^ absolutely, Tondrea
Taylor McDonald
01:07:07
Self care is so important for ourselves and for our kids during this time- you can't pour from an empty cup!
Margaret Stridick
01:07:12
Be KIND and available
Tracey O'Neal
01:07:44
Thank you for saying that Tondrea! It is so true!
Mikael Broadway
01:08:12
I appreciate the insights you all are sharing. 20 years after I had small children, and during this quarantine, I have had no contact with children for months. I used to be the nursery director for church, and this kind of conversation is so important to doing that work.
Taylor McDonald
01:08:48
Thank you for sharing, Mikael and for the great work that you have done to support children
Kylie Foley (IEI)
01:09:09
Mikael, Ellen has been AWESOME at hosting virtual story-telling for our staff kids about some of these books
Margaret Stridick
01:09:38
Personally, I’m a parenting educator so I help children through being a support to caregivers.
Rosa Bolden
01:09:43
Playing games
Taylor McDonald
01:09:52
If you do not have kids yet, I have found that it's been really helpful for children and for myself (self-care) by virtually reading to kiddos before bed or doing virtual yoga with kids, etc. To connect with your family, friends, and kids you love- and helping to give parents support and a short break.
Nadia Moreta
01:10:00
omg! Hiiii Ellen’s friend!
Ellen Beasley
01:10:30
Ireland has been listening in and telling me what would be helpful! We were just talking about love languages
Nadia Moreta
01:10:41
❤️❤️❤️
Taylor McDonald
01:10:44
So adorable! Ireland- that is a beautiful name <3
Tracey O'Neal
01:10:55
So happy you have joined us Ireland!
Nadia Moreta
01:10:57
representative!
Nadia Moreta
01:11:13
yes!
Mikael Broadway
01:11:15
Good thought, Ellen. I’ve been sharing children’s books with friends who have grandchildren. I can check in with my church about interest in virtual reading times.
Rosa Bolden
01:11:15
yes
Margaret Stridick
01:11:16
Certainly true
Tipfanie Suitte
01:11:51
The behavior is communication.
Tracey O'Neal
01:11:54
watching expressions and patterns help me notice their feelings.
Tipfanie Suitte
01:12:55
Adults have to take deep breath before we respond.
Margaret Stridick
01:13:05
Be the thermostat, not the thermometer. Act, don’t react
Nadia Moreta
01:13:09
empa
Nadia Moreta
01:13:21
empathy*
John Parker
01:14:05
if our dogs are nearby, I’ll sometimes ask them to cuddle or pet one of them - diffuses emotions
Lynda Turlington
01:14:25
our state becomes others state
Taylor McDonald
01:14:33
Empathy vs Sympathy video by Dr. Brene Brown is really helpful (I can't send it via chat since I'm in presentation mode but we will send it as a resource) <3
Tracey O'Neal
01:14:39
love that John!
Carmen Martell
01:15:06
as adults we need to understand our triggers
Tracey O'Neal
01:15:20
Brene Brown Empathy vs. Sympathy Videohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZBTYViDPlQ
Nadia Moreta
01:15:38
so good!
Taylor McDonald
01:15:58
The Calm app is really helpful with guided meditations and breathing exercises. Also- the loving kindness meditation is so helpful (Nadia is really good about leading this and talking about it too!) <3
Margaret Stridick
01:16:06
Download the iChill app (free)
Tracey O'Neal
01:16:32
This is awesome Kim! Community Resilience Model ichill app
John Parker
01:17:09
The icare feelings wheel helps with naming emotions and connecting them to other ones
Rebekah Horrell
01:17:37
Great job! Thank you for your presentation!
Kylie Foley (IEI)
01:17:46
We want to KEEP TALKING, register to join us tomorrow! Protective Factor of the Day: Knowledge of Parenting and Child Development with Dr. Dawn Baldwin Gibson and Nadia!https://bit.ly/parentingchilddevelopment
Taylor McDonald
01:18:16
Yes! Breathing is so helpful!
Margaret Stridick
01:18:46
Fragrantheart.com guided meditation
Tracey O'Neal
01:18:55
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Tracey O'Neal
01:19:23
Fun thing to do with kiddos and youth, next week PCANC hosting 5Factor5K
Nadia Moreta
01:19:39
attend our protective factors 5k! https://www.preventchildabusenc.org/socially-distant-but-together-in-prioritizing-prevention-5-factors-5k-goes-virtual/
Nadia Moreta
01:19:51
great activities for the kiddos
Nadia Moreta
01:19:59
next week
Lynda Fleming
01:20:17
Thank you! :0)
Lynda Turlington
01:20:24
Wonderful Thank You!
Maggie Woods
01:20:31
Thank you!
Nadia Moreta
01:20:31
full week of activities for families
Kimberly Allen
01:20:41
Ah, I love you so much, Taylor!!!!
Lynda Fleming
01:20:50
consciousdiscipline.com
Carmen Martell
01:20:53
So awesome information! Thank you!
Tondrea Leach
01:21:00
Thank you so much
Taylor McDonald
01:21:11
Love you, Tondrea!
Nadia Moreta
01:21:12
Please join us for our first ever (maybe not last), 5 Factors (Virtual) 5k. We are excited to offer this opportunity, for both participants and volunteers, to focus time and energy on strengthening the families and children of NC – especially now.