Onslow County Cheryl Crist

#ACES #2020

We’re excited to hear your questions and stories! You’ll be able to share later but go ahead and put any thoughts you have in the chat!

Thank you Taylor! Parenting is so difficult during this time. Virtual learning but also understanding their stressors during this time!

NAPS

Bounce Back

Naps and showers!!!

I have faith and hope

I find resilience through remembering other times that have been hard and thinking about how I got through it.

building strengths upon strengths. Knowing when I get through something I am stronger to deal with life's stressors

listening to myself and what I am needing

Ability to cope with difficulties and thrive

Self-care

resilience according to John Parker: inner strength & curiosity as well as outer adaptability and continuous learning

getting outside for some sunshine and even better if the dog is along

Definitely Self-Care :)

Thank you Carmen! Yes self-care. Often I feel guilty taking the time for self-care, but know I am a better version of myself and for others makes it essential!

knowing and leaning on your people and pets

doing things for others - generosity and hospitality

Yes, Tracey! It is very hard to take time for myself, but I'm trying to be intentional about it.

Notice the good things that happen and find joy in them.

Celebrating on a daily basis one thing that I was able to accomplished

Yes Carmen! Ellen introduced me to the “to DID” list where you list the things you did today to remind yourself you’re doing your best

We have some great links that explore each of these actions in today’s newsletter. We’ll send it out again after today’s conversation!

Brene Brown has a great talk about accepting help!!

Yeaayy! Thank you Kylie!

Any ideas on how to do that at a community level?

Brene Brown: Asking for help video:https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=10154119361455682

Margaret - I’ve found the 10 keys shared by Action for Happiness helpful. They seem to also be 10 good keys for Resilience (from my perspective): https://www.actionforhappiness.org/10-keys-to-happier-living

Brene Brown Empathy Video- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw&vl=iw

Daily I tell myself to not should myself - thank you Jessica :-)

https://www.drdansiegel.com/books_and_more/ Dr. Dan Siegel Books :) (You will be sent resources/links to these in more detail)

Yes, The PHW’s team is working to remove our “should” language!

Sometimes things can be unintentionally siloed like that- and it's so important that we work together- you're so right Jessica!

One of my favorite podcast episodes “Don’t Should Yourself” by Terrible, Thanks for Asking (best podcast name right?!): https://www.iheart.com/podcast/3-terrible-thanks-for-asking-27882264/episode/dont-should-yourself-30181111/#

^ Kylie, I LOVE that podcast and all of Nora's work/books!

Thank you for sharing :)

Just read Nora’s No Happy Endings book! Great easy way to read about grief!

Yes, Ellen! Great book- you're so right.

Rev. Jessica has been THE most important person who has helped me learn new language to de-stigmatize mental health in faith communities. Highly recommend you connect with her! jessica@nccouncilofchurches.org

This would also normalize getting help with difficult child behaviors, because all parents struggle at times

Try to move from "What's Wrong With You?" to "What Happened to you?" YES!

https://www.ncchurches.org/sacred-series-toolkit-becoming-a-trauma-informed-faith-community/

Sacred Series Toolkit: Becoming a Trauma-Informed Faith Community

and then to "what is right with you?"

My favorite part of the toolkit is Liturgy examples to talk about resiliency from the pulpit. It’s a wonderful resource

Then being willing and able to help people connect to needed resources

Therapy ❤️❤️❤️

YES! Please check out the Resource Guide in our resources newsletter of the day.

Resilience Trailer:

Checking your own bias and leaving it at the door in order to learn, support, and build resilience <3

Resilience Trailer:https://vimeo.com/137282528

sacred work!

after this, will the links in the chat comments be available for our use?

This is a loving reminder to please vote on or before November 3rd! <3

Yes, Mr. Howard- great question. These links will be sent in follow up resources.

https://www.facebook.com/onechristiannetwork/

Durham: http://www.radicalhealing.us/support.html

Lynda Turlington is amazing and the work in Harnett County! She also agreed to share their resource guide, which is a resilient support that connects people to resources without stigma!

Lynda, can we please share the link for ppl to sign up for your upcoming CC's with everyone? SO looking forward to it! <3

Does anyone know of any resources for those who need dental and medical care? For those who do not have dental/medical insurance. Thanks in advance!

Tomorrow we’ll be meeting at 1:00 pm to talk about Social Emotional Competence of Children! Register to attend, receive recording, and our newsletter tomorrow: https://ncsu.zoom.us/meeting/register/tJcoc-uurzktGdBI5QIX800EolSVYR5Yha6p

Lynda, that is a great question- we can look into that for you! I'm thinking that NC211 may lead you to some beneficial resources!

or, NCCare360

Thank you so much! I appreciate all that you do!

We appreciate you as well- please feel free to email me if you have any questions or if you would like me to send you those resources: tmcdonald@preventchildabusenc.org

Very good Mrs. Gainey!! Well said!

AMAZING. Perfectly said

yes!

Will do, Taylor! Thanks everyone! Great webinar!!

thank you for joining!

Thank you so much! This was wonderful!

thank you

Thank you so much for this presentation!

tmcdonald@preventchildabusenc.org please reach out to me at anytime- thank you all so much! :)

Thank you, Jessica!

Thank You

Thank You!